Finding a life partner should be a joyful process for you and your family. Most members are genuine, but online introductions attract people with other motives too. These guidelines help you share wisely, verify carefully and meet safely.
A verified badge means we have checked a NIC or passport against the profile. It is a good first signal, but it does not confirm character, income or intentions. Prefer verified profiles and ask unverified matches to verify.
Your phone number is hidden until both sides accept an interest. Someone who pushes to move to WhatsApp, Telegram or email in the first message, or asks for your number in a profile description, is skipping the safeguards for a reason.
Photos are hidden by default and shown only to accepted matches. Keep it that way until you are comfortable. Remember that anything you show can be screenshotted, so share clear face photos only with families you are seriously considering.
When you show a profile to a relative or broker, create a share link with the shortest useful expiry and turn on phone, photos or horoscope only if that person truly needs them. Revoke the link as soon as it has served its purpose.
No genuine family needs your NIC number, passport copy, bank account, card number or OTP during introductions. Keep documents for the registrar, not the chat.
District and city are enough for a profile. Share your home address only after families have met in person and you have decided to proceed.
A short video call confirms the person matches their photos and is who they say they are. Reluctance to appear on video, or constant excuses about a broken camera, is a serious warning sign.
Sithmini is built for families to be involved. Ask to speak with the match's parents or guardians, and introduce yours. Scammers avoid families because families ask hard questions.
Confirm the workplace, education and hometown through people you know, not through documents the match sends you. Ask a relative in the area. A reverse image search can reveal photos copied from elsewhere.
Meet in a public place during the day, with a family member or friend present or nearby. Arrange your own transport both ways and tell someone where you are going and when you expect to return.
Many genuine members live abroad, but 'stuck overseas' is also the most common scam story. Insist on video calls, speak to family in Sri Lanka, and never send money or documents to help someone travel, clear customs or process a visa.
If something feels rushed, too perfect or inconsistent, pause. A genuine family will respect your need for time. Pressure to decide quickly is itself a reason to slow down.
Hospital bills, a stuck shipment, visa fees, a business opportunity, a gift that needs customs clearance, or a loan 'until my salary comes'. The story changes; the ask does not. Nobody you met online should ever receive money from you.
Declaring love, talking about marriage dates or calling you their destiny within days, before families have spoken, is a classic manipulation pattern designed to lower your guard.
Model-quality images, very few photos, or photos that never show the person in an everyday setting may be copied from someone else. Ask for a casual photo holding a note with today's date.
Details about work, family, past marriages or where they live that shift between conversations. Keep notes and ask gently about inconsistencies.
Asking you to keep the relationship from your parents, to hide chats, or to act quickly 'before someone else proposes'. Genuine proposals welcome family involvement.
Requests for property, cash or vehicles as a condition of marriage, or a sudden change in expectations after an interest is accepted. Report these to us, and consult your family and a lawyer before agreeing to anything.
Someone insisting you pay a specific astrologer or buy a remedy before proceeding, or offering porondam 'fixes' for a fee. Sithmini's reports are for guidance only and we never ask members to pay outside parties.
New profiles and major edits are checked by our team before they are published, and every person listed must be at least 18 years old.
Phone numbers, private photos and horoscopes are revealed only after both sides accept an interest, or when you choose to share them.
Blocking removes you from a member's view and stops all contact. Reports are reviewed by a person, and repeat offenders are permanently removed.
NIC and passport images are encrypted on your device and never visible to the main Sithmini system, so verifying your identity does not expose your documents.
Use the Report button on the profile or in the chat, and block the member. Keep screenshots of the conversation.
If you have sent money or shared documents, contact your bank immediately and file a complaint at your nearest police station. In an emergency, call the Sri Lanka Police on 119.
You can also reach us at support@sithmini.com. We treat safety reports as a priority and will act on the account involved.